Communicating While Still Becoming

Communicating for who you are, where you are, and where your vision is right now

You’re already building the vision placed in your heart - the one meant to help others.

You’re already moving pieces into place, even if some of those pieces are still coming together.

You may already be showing up, sharing parts of the work you’re building.

And somewhere along the way, a quiet tension can surface:

You’re not where you started.

But chances are, you’re not quite where you want to be either.

And communicating from that middle place can feel unsettling.

When I was starting out, I found it difficult to communicate - not because I didn’t know how, but because of what was happening inside. A pressure right in the middle of my chest.

I didn’t want to exaggerate myself or bite off more than I could carry.

I didn’t want to sound disingenuous or full of hype.

But I also didn’t want to make myself sound too small.

I didn’t want my vision - or the work -to be dismissed or taken lightly.

For a while, I thought this struggle was about personality.

That I was too literal. Too quiet.

But when I finally slowed down and listened, I realized the issue wasn’t communication at all.

It was that I hadn’t fully settled into where I was - or where my vision was.

I hadn’t embraced that where I was wasn’t where I’d always be…and that where I was right then was still valid. That I didn’t need to be anyone other than myself - soft yet strong, quiet yet bold.

And if I’m honest, those feelings still show up at times. Because I’m still becoming.

We’ve all heard the phrase, “Fake it till you make it.” And for many, that turns into putting on a face - high energy, constant hype, always “on.”

But when communication becomes a character you perform, it stops reflecting what’s real.

Hype may work for some. But if your vision is meant to genuinely help others, hype and gimmicks won’t sustain it.

And it’s easy to believe that if you don’t exaggerate yourself, where you are, you’ll be overlooked. That you’ll fall behind. That you won’t be heard.

But you’re not behind. And there is nothing wrong with being where you are right now.

Communicating while still becoming isn’t about saying more or less. It’s about knowing what fits now - and sharing from a place that honors who you are, where you are, and where your vision is in this season, while leaving room for where it’s growing.

And that kind of communication requires discernment. In Before You Communicate, Pause and Align, we talked about the posture that comes before communication.

This is the posture within.

Discernment in Communication

Discernment can sometimes feel like a heavy or overly spiritual word.

But here, let’s bring it down to something practical.

Discernment in communication is the ability to recognize what is true, ready, and aligned to share - knowing what can be shared with integrity now, and what still needs time, care, or support before being named publicly.

It’s how you sense when what you’re communicating feels settled, not strained - honoring where you and your vision are, not where you think they should be.

At its core, discernment is simply listening - in motion.

Listening as you communicate.

Listening to the tug in your heart.

Listening to what brings peace not pressure.

It’s not having everything figured out. It’s staying attentive, present, and willing to honor what’s true right now.

As You Communicate

Discernment doesn’t usually arrive as a loud answer.

More often, it shows up as quiet signals you notice while you’re communicating.

So, as you communicate, pay attention to what’s happening within you and around you.

Notice the pressure.

Are you feeling rushed to explain, justify, or prove yourself?

Pressure often shows up when we’re trying to communicate from where we think we should be, rather than where we actually are.

Notice the pull inside.

That subtle sense of hesitation or restraint isn’t always fear. Sometimes it’s wisdom, signaling that something needs more clarity, more support, or more time before being named publicly.

Notice the tone you’re slipping into.

Are your words starting to feel inflated or overly cautious?

Both can be signs that you’re drifting away from what feels settled and true.

Notice what brings peace.

Peace doesn’t mean comfort or certainty.

It means your words feel honest, proportionate, and aligned - even if they’re incomplete.

Final Thoughts

Discernment doesn’t slow movement - it steadies it, and it steadies your communication and how you feel about what you’ve shared.

When you communicate with discernment, you stay aligned with yourself and your vision. You create space to share consistently, authentically, and in a way that reaches the hearts you’re meant to touch.

And you do it all while building with peace, not pressure.

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Putting It into Action

As you write, speak, post, or share anything this week, pause and notice. Take one small step toward communicating with discernment:

• Notice the tug inside. What subtle hesitations or signals are asking for more clarity, care, or time?

• Notice the pressure. Are you feeling rushed to explain, justify, or prove yourself?

• Notice the tone. Are your words starting to feel inflated or overly cautious?

• Notice what brings peace. When your words feel honest, proportionate, and aligned, you’re communicating from a place of integrity.

And you don’t have to do this alone. When you’re ready to dig deeper and build communication systems that support your vision with ease, click here to see how we can build them together.

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